All of that...totally normal. When we put ourselves out there in big ways, with things we're unsure of and aren't "in the bag", it's scary and we fear many things...the most common, what will people think? What will happen if I fail?
Much of the time, this fear of what people are going to think is what holds us back from telling people about our goals, or even conceiving of them in the first place. The fact is, to achieve big things, we need a lot of encouragement and support. I love working solo but it's the feedback I get from my peers, my mentors, my clients that keeps me going with Be PowerFULL and working to help women step into their power. But, so often we fear putting ourselves out there because we're worried that people will judge us if we don't hit our goal, if we go too slow, or if we have set-backs.
I want you to keep a few things in mind, though: #1 About 99% of the time when you put out to the world your goal, 'your people' rise to the surface. You know, the people that will be your real support system and who truly want you to achieve the goal you've set out on, #2 People respect doers. You'll earn a hell of a lot of respect from your friends, family for putting yourself out there with your goal. And, lastly, #3 You'll take more action towards your goal when you announce it to the world. That voice that says "Maybe I can't...", "Maybe I shouldn't...", "I can skip it today...." may just be inspired knowing that you have an audience (even if it's just one person).
Here's a few more reasons why sharing our goals (and progress) makes us more likely to accomplish our goals:
It meets our need for social connection:
We all want to be a part of something, understood by others, in the trenches side-by-side with people who share common values. When we share our goals and put ourselves out there, we tend to attract those with common interests. You know, those friends who suggest a girls
It helps to provide the positive feedback that keeps us motivated:
Sharing our goal and progress with others helps us get feedback and praise. Like the common positive reinforcement strategy with children, this encourages us to keep going to continue to receive that positive feedback.
It gives a greater purpose to our goal:
When you announce your goal and share your progress, you encourage others. Though your goal may be to run a half marathon or lose 20 pounds, as you share about your journey, you affect others in your world. When you receive feedback like, "You've helped me to eat better because I see what you're doing" or "You make me want to get my shoes on and go run!" it gives further purpose to your goal beyond the tangibles.
Last but not least, sharing your goals and progress holds you accountable:
Sharing your goal with others, having people out there who know what you're working towards, holds you accountable to taking action even when you don't want to. It's can be easy to push aside a task to another day if we think no one is watching. I don't have to write, I can skip my workout today, I can eat this cake right now because no one knows I'm trying to lose weight anyway. Tell them! Admit to yourself it's something you want...seek support and encouragement.
I have fallen in love with proclaiming what I'm doing next. When I want to launch my next product - when I want to release a new free resource - when I want to deadlift 250 lbs. I love the fire it burns and the nudge it gives me to keep going because I know people are watching.
I don't want you to think you have to post your 'before' picture in your bra and underwear on FB and proclaim the weight you want to lose. Sharing your goal and progress could be as simple as announcing what's going to happen to your spouse or best friend. It could be hiring a coach and committing to your goal financially with an experienced coach, someone who has your back and will give you support and resources to achieve it. Sharing your goal could be as simple as going up to someone at the gym and saying, "I want to learn how to do that!". If you think about it, dream about it, wonder if you can do it. Go ahead, announce it and take the big, scary first step.
I'm super excited to tell you that I've opened a few slots in my private coaching program. It's 1-on-1 virtual coaching that is tailored 100% to your diet, performance and health goals. My private coaching clients receive weekly workout plans, meal plans + recipes, access to me via email and text and monthly calls/skype workouts for accountability, support and to help you say a big YES to achieving your goals once and for all. I have a few spots left and we start Jan 1. Email me now if you think this is something you're interested in or apply here. Once the limited slots are filled, I'll be closing private coaching to focus my time and resources on these select ladies.